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The Berlin Wall

During the cold war a reminder of the separation of Germany was the Berlin Wall. This barrier existed during one of the most notorious periods of Chaos in the life of Germany. It was a constant reminder of the unwanted presence of a difference country who invaded the country, lives and culture of an entire people. Talk about a barrier!!!

If my blog allowed sub-titles the sub-title for this one would be: Aligning Your Life by Defining Your Values

In many instances a person will wonder, “Why am I conflicted inside?” I am working on my goals and following my dreams?

We often wonder why such events occur in our lives. For those who have never thought about it, it can present a troubling aura around daily living. This feeling of conflict or dissonance is called “Chaos”.

Chaos stems from our core value set not being clearly defined and our actions being incongruent with our underlying “value set”. That lack of congruency while real, does not manifest itself clearly to us as a result of our value sets not being defined. Moreover, we struggle with it on a daily basis as a result of not even knowing that the problem exists.

Defining values can be more fundamental to our happiness than we ever imagined. It can help us to understand ourselves, our relationships our spirituality and our moral standards. This definition can help alleviate the daily worries and anxiety that we experience.

Many people write down their goals. This is a good thing. However, if your goals conflict with your underlying value set, then you have the same problem all over again. Value sets must be determined PRIOR to goals being set or CHAOS will ensue.

So, how do we define values? I have often wondered how to gather the resources together to aid in this. Well, the internet has obliged. In the resource box below is a link to a page I have set up specifically for helping you define your values. There are three aids that I think will help tremendously; Value Sheet, Personal Affirmation and List of Values. With these three and the explanation below, you should be able to define your core value set and align it to a personal affirmation.

With these tools you can begin to truly align your value sets with your goals and remove the chaos that this misalignment may have caused in your life. WARNING: This drill may produce significantly different results than you were expecting. It did for me.

So, here’s how we do it!

#1.  Take the master list of values and circle every value that you really think aligns to you. Be generous and circle who you really are.
#2.  Go back and place a rectangle around the twenty or less that describe who you most want to be.
#3.  From that twenty, take a highlighter and highlight the 12 that are critical to you.
#4.  Number them from one to twelve.
#5.  Write the top ten on your Value Sheet.

This drill will help you define and decide how you want to live. Not in the specifics, but in the underlying values you want yourself to live by and others to see.

Compare your results to your goals. Do they match? If they do not, this may be why you have experienced that chaos in your life. Not to worry, we can realign them very easily. Goals change with life experience and knowledge. You may have a different set of knowledge now and you can put that knowledge to use using the tools provided here.

Remember, each day you have a chance to start with a blank slate. You can choose to be better, more confident, more aligned and happy or you can choose to remain static.

Rob Wheeler

Iceburg

An iceberg is a devious barrier with the most damaging parts of it underneath the water sometimes impervious to sight.

The Titanic was suppose to be the “unsinkable” ship.  An iceberg took it out easily and many people perished as a result of this unseen or unperceived barrier

There are some barriers in our lives that don’t seem to be that large when we first look at them.  However, when you look underneath the barrier it is larger than you ever imagined.  How you deal with these “unseen” barriers will determine largely how well you succeed in your business and personal life.

Today we will be addressing one of these unseen barriers.  Personal motivation is an unseen barrier.  It is internal, self determined and self handled.

I remember my dad coming into my room and saying, “Time for school!”

It was soooo hard to get up to go to school, and I liked school.  My motivation level for school was just not at a level to ensure consistent participation.  What gets you motivated?  Have you found that special “thing” that motivates you?

Martin Luther King says:

“I say to you, this morning, that if you have never found something so dear and precious to you that you will die for it, then you aren’t fit to live.”

What are you willing to DIE for.

I have heard it said that if your why doesn’t make you cry, its not big enough.

There are many things that motivate us, but they are usually broken into two categories.  Desperation and Inspiration.  People that are motivated by desperation find that their motivation usually is a temporary motivation and will dissipate as soon as the situation that caused the desperation has been resolved or eliminated.  Desperate people react to situations.

Inspiration on the other hand can have a significantly longer time span because it is rooted in the subconscious.  It is built from a deep mission or longing.  It will not dissipate with results.  Rather with results, it will build excitement spurring additional results and desire.  Inspired people are proactive.

It has been said that you can lead a horse to water, but you can NOT make him drink.  While this is fundamentally true, if you feed a horse salt pellets along the way, the horse will drink the water without you having to ask.

There is a measure of of pure determination and disciple in any motivation.  That is why it is important to find that which inspires you.  Motivation starts with self.  However, it should extend to others to ensure that your mission gets traction toward completion.

Matthew McConahey really caught the vision in the film We Are Marshall.

Will you “lay it on the line” today?  Inspiration beats desperation every time.

Here are a few things you can do to help in the motivation process:

• Dream Big – Visualize what your successful day will look like.
• Speak it out loud
• Choose to have the right attitude
• Believe in yourself
• Give yourself the time to succeed
• Remove Negative/Abusive People from your circle of influence.
• Read positive/inspirational materials
• Determine in your mind that you will NEVER give up.
• Break tasks into smaller parts
• Seek inspiration from those who have traveled the same path and are successful
• Build a positive group of Key Resources^TM
• Music is a master motivator.  Use it to your advantage
• Living things motivate.  Keep things that are alive around you.
• Become a life long student of your industry choice
• Reward yourself for reaching a goal

These things will ensure that you keep yourself motivated.  Listen to motivating people and watch motivating material.  Seek your true inspiration to ensure that you have the energy and drive to succeed.

Listen to Gene Hackman:

You don’t need a sports movie to create motivation.  Notice that each coach here is programming the athletes mind in preparation for performing above the normal abilities.  You can program you mind the exact same way.

Choose to be better.

Rob.