Barriers to Success – Personal Philosophy – (BTS Part 1)

The Great Wall of China

The Great Wall of China is 25 feet high, 4,160 miles (7,600km). It is one of the greatest barriers to mankind. However, it is external. Most of the barriers we will be discussing during The Barriers to Success series will be internal. They stem from personal issues and they start with personal philosophy.

Have you ever received a phone call when you were completely free to do anything you wanted and the person on the other end of the line is a drainer? He or she is not someone you really want to do something with. Have you ever told that person you weren’t free when you really were? How did that make you feel? Did you get that little feeling churning in your gut? Did that create some chaos within you?

That chaos or dissonance as Kurt Mortenson calls it, is a form of personal incongruence. It can start out psychological. However, if you do not resolve it, it has the potential of some physiological manifestations. This is a result of you not aligning with your personal value set or your fundamental Personal Philosophy.

To ensure that you are NOT feeling that feeling, you have to align your actions and re-actions with your underlying personal philosophy. Many people wonder why they are not having success in their lives. It may be a lot of things. However, personal incongruence, chaos, dissonance or whatever you want to call it is a barrier that a large percentage of the population struggles with.

When we started getting into incongruences in math (at a younger age) it was simple, exact, well defined.

5 ≠ 6

a(a * 13) ≠ a(a + 13)

The answer either is congruent or not.

If you are not congruent with your personal philosophy you will struggle to succeed. I have heard many times, but what about the porn industry, what about the tobacco industry or what about the alcohol industry? Surely those people are constantly incongruent. No! The reason for this is their underlying personal philosophy or value set. If their value set places high value on what they are doing and their moral set does not disagree, they can maintain personal congruence. I am not saying whether someone is right or wrong here. Their personal philosophy guides them and as long as they are congruent, they will be able to succeed much more likely than someone who is trying to be or act completely different than “who” they really are.

The reason for this is that they are not struggling with inner feelings or incongruences.

A major Barrier to Success is not being personally congruent. Find who you really are and BE YOU! Define your personal philosophy and don’t try to please others.

Rob Wheeler

#1 | Written by Matt S about 4 years ago.

This is a scary concept actually. So many people, including myself, may have to completely rearrange their lives so as to bring themselves into congruence. Stability then becomes pitted against success. We want success, but in order to achieve it we have to possible give up things that we have staked a claim on.

My dad said once that he climbed the ladder of success only to find that he had the ladder sitting on the wrong wall. Looking over he saw a life he did not really want, but now that he was on top of the wall he did not feel like he could come back down.

The energy that it takes to not only find the write wall to climb, but then to realize you might have to come down from the one you are on may be enormous. And one has to ask themselves if they are really up to the challenge.
#2 | Written by rebecca russell about 4 years ago.

Great article Rob, I am beginning to understand the value of giving content.
Rebecca
#3 | Written by Richard Onebamoi about 4 years ago.

Thank you Rob, this is a great article. This principle of personal philosophy is so true and relevant today. Now, success means different things to different people and one of the major barrier is to set out to succeed in any enterprise with someone’s definition of success. It is important to define success and what it means to you. Your definition of success should be part of your personal philosophy and must be CONGRUENT with your core values. Thanks again for sharing this article.
#4 | Written by Cangel about 3 years ago.

I agree with you about the importance of actions being related or our personal value set in order to make us successful. The thing is to have an educated personal philosophy that respects ourselves and others. Unfortunagely, it is true that people can feel quite comfortable doing things that can harm others because they personal philosophy considers this acceptable behavior. This is why good education is so important so that we can develop a personal philosophy that uplifts ourself and others.
#5 | Written by Rizwan alam about 3 years ago.

Barriers to Success – Personal Philosophy – (BTS Part 1)

This principle of personal philosophy is so true and relevant today. Today success means different different things to different different people and one of the major things to set out to succeed in any tnerprises success of definition. Now this time important to success and what do you want to say. Your things should be a true part of your personal philosophy.

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Barriers to Success – Personal Philosophy – (BTS Part 1)

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