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What if there were a barrier you couldn’t see at all?  Would that barrier scare you?  Watch this short video:

A jet screams through the sound barrier.  How do you even “REALLY” define barriers you cannot see?  How can something you cannot see affect you?

The barriers we deal with on a daily basis can be daunting.  Today we will talk about a barrier that is unseen.  These unseen barriers carry the most sinister consequences if not navigated properly.

Many people only want to succeed in one area of their life.  Others want to succeed in every area of their life.  Still others define success monetarily, while even more define success in the materials (toys) they have gathered.  Many women define success solely in their children and everything surrounding them and their success.  While this is noble, they are not giving themselves credit for the many other things that they do and can do.

How you define success can be as different as the sands of the earth.  How YOU define success makes all the difference in the world.

Do you define success in relationships and religion or do you define success in emotional stability and finances?  You are going to define success according to you.  No one else can do this drill for you.  You must decide what your definition is and how to achieve it.

There are seven key areas to measure success:

Spiritual
Social
Mental
Emotional
Physical
Financial
Material

Jet crashes through the sound barrier

In each area you need to define what you consider “success”.  Once you have defined that you can begin to align yourself with your values and goals so that they meet and makes sense.  As you do this, remember the sound barrier and what you cannot see, CAN affect you in significant ways.

When you talk about spiritual many people believe that it is a religious definition.  While that is true for many, it may not be true for you.

To properly define your success you must first have set your values.  You can use the resource box below to find how to set your values.  Once you have defined your values, now you can work on your personal definition of success.

These are NOT goals.  They are definitions of success.  Goals will be far beyond this category.

Take each of the categories above and write down what you believe is your definition of success is in each category.

Rob Wheeler

The Berlin Wall

During the cold war a reminder of the separation of Germany was the Berlin Wall. This barrier existed during one of the most notorious periods of Chaos in the life of Germany. It was a constant reminder of the unwanted presence of a difference country who invaded the country, lives and culture of an entire people. Talk about a barrier!!!

If my blog allowed sub-titles the sub-title for this one would be: Aligning Your Life by Defining Your Values

In many instances a person will wonder, “Why am I conflicted inside?” I am working on my goals and following my dreams?

We often wonder why such events occur in our lives. For those who have never thought about it, it can present a troubling aura around daily living. This feeling of conflict or dissonance is called “Chaos”.

Chaos stems from our core value set not being clearly defined and our actions being incongruent with our underlying “value set”. That lack of congruency while real, does not manifest itself clearly to us as a result of our value sets not being defined. Moreover, we struggle with it on a daily basis as a result of not even knowing that the problem exists.

Defining values can be more fundamental to our happiness than we ever imagined. It can help us to understand ourselves, our relationships our spirituality and our moral standards. This definition can help alleviate the daily worries and anxiety that we experience.

Many people write down their goals. This is a good thing. However, if your goals conflict with your underlying value set, then you have the same problem all over again. Value sets must be determined PRIOR to goals being set or CHAOS will ensue.

So, how do we define values? I have often wondered how to gather the resources together to aid in this. Well, the internet has obliged. In the resource box below is a link to a page I have set up specifically for helping you define your values. There are three aids that I think will help tremendously; Value Sheet, Personal Affirmation and List of Values. With these three and the explanation below, you should be able to define your core value set and align it to a personal affirmation.

With these tools you can begin to truly align your value sets with your goals and remove the chaos that this misalignment may have caused in your life. WARNING: This drill may produce significantly different results than you were expecting. It did for me.

So, here’s how we do it!

#1.  Take the master list of values and circle every value that you really think aligns to you. Be generous and circle who you really are.
#2.  Go back and place a rectangle around the twenty or less that describe who you most want to be.
#3.  From that twenty, take a highlighter and highlight the 12 that are critical to you.
#4.  Number them from one to twelve.
#5.  Write the top ten on your Value Sheet.

This drill will help you define and decide how you want to live. Not in the specifics, but in the underlying values you want yourself to live by and others to see.

Compare your results to your goals. Do they match? If they do not, this may be why you have experienced that chaos in your life. Not to worry, we can realign them very easily. Goals change with life experience and knowledge. You may have a different set of knowledge now and you can put that knowledge to use using the tools provided here.

Remember, each day you have a chance to start with a blank slate. You can choose to be better, more confident, more aligned and happy or you can choose to remain static.

Rob Wheeler

Video has become very popular on the web and a necessity for any serious business. As a result, we need to understand some basic things about it.

#1. You don’t have to create the video to embed it.
#2. You can embed any video from most of the video services (we will use YouTube)
#3. Search for the subject you want and go for it.

I have often been asked, “Rob, how do you embed video in a blog post?”

Wanna know?

Its actually pretty simple. The steps are below:

#1. Find the video you wish to embed on youtube.
#2. Copy the embed code from the video provider.
#3.  Paste it in the HTML where you want it to exist.
#4. Save the page.
#5. Go have fun.

Easy enough huh?  But, since we are doing a thing about video.  How about the World’s Shortest Video on Embedding?

Here it is:

There you go!

Have fun…

Rob.

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to spend the time with an amazing individual.  His name is Daegan Smith.  He is an internet marketer and just a neat guy.  He spent time with 40 of us teaching his methods on how to create a system that runs on autopilot for generating leads year round.  He calls it the Free Autopilot Traffic Loop System.

It comes straight from The 4th Pillar – Knowledge Marketing.  He has a few twists that are extremely interesting.  The call is long, however, it is soooo worth it.  So, block  so time or return here to finish.

Free Autopilot Loop System

After you listen, you may want to be included on the list to see the video, we are creating that goes visually through each step.  If so, enter your information on the free newsletter box to the right of the screen (you may have to scroll up or down).

Be aware, this call WILL change your opinions on internet marketing and how it can help you.  It is a powerful call.

Rob.

Everybody needs a release of some type.  Some people use physical activity, some people like to talk it out, others try to use stress relieving techniques (ie yoga, meditation, prayer).  I love creating things.  I paint, write music, write or just doodle on paper.

A while back I submitted a poem or two to www.poetry.com.  It is a place where you can just place your thoughts on the web and let them sink in.  One of the poems is called Mountain Top.

The Mountain Top

As I think about many people who struggle with life, I wonder what their release is.  What do they use to wipe away the tears of this life.  What do you use as a release.  Consider how you might wipe away the fears and failures of your life with some activity.

If it is creative, good.  However, develop some release mechanism in your life so that you can control the emotional roller-coaster that we ride on.

Find your release so that you can handle life.

Dedicated to Brock and Jill Stanton.

Rob.

Iceburg

An iceberg is a devious barrier with the most damaging parts of it underneath the water sometimes impervious to sight.

The Titanic was suppose to be the “unsinkable” ship.  An iceberg took it out easily and many people perished as a result of this unseen or unperceived barrier

There are some barriers in our lives that don’t seem to be that large when we first look at them.  However, when you look underneath the barrier it is larger than you ever imagined.  How you deal with these “unseen” barriers will determine largely how well you succeed in your business and personal life.

Today we will be addressing one of these unseen barriers.  Personal motivation is an unseen barrier.  It is internal, self determined and self handled.

I remember my dad coming into my room and saying, “Time for school!”

It was soooo hard to get up to go to school, and I liked school.  My motivation level for school was just not at a level to ensure consistent participation.  What gets you motivated?  Have you found that special “thing” that motivates you?

Martin Luther King says:

“I say to you, this morning, that if you have never found something so dear and precious to you that you will die for it, then you aren’t fit to live.”

What are you willing to DIE for.

I have heard it said that if your why doesn’t make you cry, its not big enough.

There are many things that motivate us, but they are usually broken into two categories.  Desperation and Inspiration.  People that are motivated by desperation find that their motivation usually is a temporary motivation and will dissipate as soon as the situation that caused the desperation has been resolved or eliminated.  Desperate people react to situations.

Inspiration on the other hand can have a significantly longer time span because it is rooted in the subconscious.  It is built from a deep mission or longing.  It will not dissipate with results.  Rather with results, it will build excitement spurring additional results and desire.  Inspired people are proactive.

It has been said that you can lead a horse to water, but you can NOT make him drink.  While this is fundamentally true, if you feed a horse salt pellets along the way, the horse will drink the water without you having to ask.

There is a measure of of pure determination and disciple in any motivation.  That is why it is important to find that which inspires you.  Motivation starts with self.  However, it should extend to others to ensure that your mission gets traction toward completion.

Matthew McConahey really caught the vision in the film We Are Marshall.

Will you “lay it on the line” today?  Inspiration beats desperation every time.

Here are a few things you can do to help in the motivation process:

• Dream Big – Visualize what your successful day will look like.
• Speak it out loud
• Choose to have the right attitude
• Believe in yourself
• Give yourself the time to succeed
• Remove Negative/Abusive People from your circle of influence.
• Read positive/inspirational materials
• Determine in your mind that you will NEVER give up.
• Break tasks into smaller parts
• Seek inspiration from those who have traveled the same path and are successful
• Build a positive group of Key Resources^TM
• Music is a master motivator.  Use it to your advantage
• Living things motivate.  Keep things that are alive around you.
• Become a life long student of your industry choice
• Reward yourself for reaching a goal

These things will ensure that you keep yourself motivated.  Listen to motivating people and watch motivating material.  Seek your true inspiration to ensure that you have the energy and drive to succeed.

Listen to Gene Hackman:

You don’t need a sports movie to create motivation.  Notice that each coach here is programming the athletes mind in preparation for performing above the normal abilities.  You can program you mind the exact same way.

Choose to be better.

Rob.

We hear the announcers voice each time a goal is scored in soccer.  The excitement of scoring a goal is real, tangible and measurable.

We should have the same excitement as we “score” (reach) our goals in life.  There are seven areas in which we can define and measure.

One thing that will help you to write goals that will spur you on to achievement is to write the goal in such a way as though you already have achieved the goal.

If your goal is to reach a certain sales level by December 31, 2008.  An example would be:

I am depositing a $35,000 commission check for reaching 1.5 Million in sales this year           Dec, 31, 2008

The model is:  State goal as though you have achieved it. Write the date of proposed achievement.

Try it on the sheets below.  The red links have PDF blank sheets attached to them.

Spiritual

The first area of concern is setting your spiritual goals.  Notice, I did not not say religious.  It doesn’t matter what religion you are or if you choose no religion at all.  Each of us has a spiritual side to our lives.  Break down that spirituality into defineable and measurable units

Social

The second area to address is social goals.  These are goals that you set to work on people skills in a social setting.  This can be friendships, networking, non-profit work or any area where you create a scenario where there is strong social interaction.

Mental

The area is where you challenge your mind.  Sudoku, crossword puzzles and word finds are some examples.  Many families play games.  Keeping your mind sharp ensures that you are ready to identify those opportunities that cross your plate that make sense.

Emotional

Emotional goals are very important.  Do you control your anger, jealousy?  Do you have a hold on your anxiety?  Can you accept someone else’s opinion as it is?  This area helps you to create and define a plan to execute the steps necessary to grow in this area.

Physical

This is a sensitive area.  So, I will just ask, where are your priorities as far as your health and wellness are concerned?  Are you on a path to health or death?  Are you proactively addressing future potential health issues with your diet, exercise?  This area of your goals will challenge you to new heights of commitment.

Financial

Did you know money is the #1 cause of divorce?  Whether you married or not, this area will help you define and do the things necessary to handle your finances as they exist now while planning for the future.

Material

What are the items that you are going to acquire and how will the help you and your family?  Are they toys or assets.

Setting your goals can be a most liberating experience as you formulate the plan to achieve YOUR dreams.  It is ok to work for another while you are reaching for the stars.  However, always ensure that you have your plan in mind and that you are not being driven by another’s dreams and aspirations.

An man took his new employee out to his farm because he liked the employee.  He showed him all the land, beautiful houses and barns, swimming pool, pond and his many play toys.  He said, “My boy, see this land?  If you work hard for another 20 or 30 years, all of this will finally be mine!”

You see the man understood leverage.  He understood that if you leverage someone else for long enough, that person will pay you many times what you pay them.

Step up to center field and start aiming for your goals.

For more complete information on goals, visit my GOAL PAGE.

Rob Wheeler

I ran a mile today.  It was a little harder than it has been lately.  My son John ran with me and Jacob trailed behind.  We kept it slow.  However, it made me think about how we tend to focus on certain areas of life and not necessarily others during each stage of our life.  I have to admit that in the last ten years I have not focused on health as I should.

When we are young our metabolism is on fire and we can burn calories fast.  As we age our bodies tend to slow down because of our activity choices.

Other than physically, what choices have you made that have caused you to “slow” down?  What have you allowed to creep into your life to divert your focus?  Keep your life focused on each area to ensure that you fulfill all the purposes you have potential to fill.

My friend Perry Wakefield has taken up triathlons and become helplessly addicted.  He and Dave Sherwin have been training consistently. This week, Dave, his son Austin and his Dad are running a triathlon in Yuba, UT.  Three generations of Sherwin men swimming, biking and running.  I will be taking some pictures for sure.  Perry will be competing there as well.

Perry 100 Yards From Finishing BAM

Both Dave and Perry ran at BAM Battle at Midway (a triathlon at Midway).  Here is a picture of Perry 100 yards from the finish.

I have felt a twinge of hypocrisy as I write on the this blog on personal development and improvement in general. I haven’t been properly focusing on health.

I am making a public commitment on my blog to improve in the area of physical health and consistency.

Where have you been “inconsistent”?

I challenge you to look inward.  Look for your inner hypocrisy and commit to removing it daily.

Rob Wheeler